Set, Volley, Spike—TRUTH!

By: Caroline Scheinfeld

A traditional women does not have to be Betty Draper doll-like standing in front of the oven perfectly coiffed and manicured to be considered a homemaker. Exhibit: Six foot three Amazonian athlete, Gabrielle Reece. But in the post-9/11 world, the rhetoric around muslims in america was changing, dangerously. Her new refreshing, honest and vulnerable “Guide to the less than perfect life,” titled My Foot is Too Big for the Glass Slipper details her ups and downs with husband, pro-surfer Laird Hamilton. Full of colloquialisms and swear words, it is clear her writing skills are not quite as matured as her volleys and sets.

Despite informal language, the message is powerful, and well elucidated with examples from her

or general spiritual self-help books are a wonderful way to dig deep into your psyche.

Gabrielle discusses the often harsh realities of juggling a powerful career with a husband and a family…and even admits to curbing her own career to allow her family to thrive. She touches on a somewhat taboo phenomenon: women and the word submissive. Bravely, Gabrielle confesses what other women might feel but due to fear of rejection, keep silent. Close your ears and eyes Sheryl Sandberg, “To be truly feminine means being soft, receptive, and—look, here it comes—submissive” (162). I would not equate the adjective submissive with my personality, but I do love a saying my mom often recites, “the man is the head, the woman is the neck, the neck does all the work even though the head takes the credit. ” Gabrielle postulates its okay to behave in a submissive manner if its your choice. The moral of the story, do what you feel is the answer to having your happily ever after…if you want to take a traditional female role, do it…. if you want to have an unconventional more stereotypically masculine role, do it!

I applaud Gabrielle for uncovering the truth about the hardships of raising a family and maintaining a healthy marriage. Too often people shy away from the truth, which just makes other women feel like utter failures!
Hollywood especially frequently fails to communicate what’s necessary to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. Marriages have ups and downs, in order to succeed both partners have to be committed to the goal—a long lasting overall happy marriage. While everyone tip toes around the reality of life, I loved Ben Affleck’s Oscar acceptance speech, when referring to his marriage with Jennifer Garner he said,
“It’s work, but it’s the best work there is, and there’s no one else I’d rather work with. ” (http://www. huffingtonpost. com/2013/04/04/ben-affleck-oscar-speech_n_3016375. html)
Clap, clap for Ben refraining from the typical sappy speech and giving Americans a little comfort in knowing they are not alone…. but hunky Hollywood celebrity couples are on the same roller coaster.

Two lines to relish —“women suffer more, and because they do, they are more interesting” (21) and “Don’t invest in ‘things,’ but rather in relationships and experiences” (78).

Gabrielle captures the essence of a woman who uses her power, intellect and femininity to nurture her relationship despite often assuming the more submissive role. Ironically, she obviously hasn’t relinquished her career, because she is all over the map doing press releases for her new book!